Anger as Dutch couple give up Korean girl, 7, they adopted as baby over 'failure to fit in'
Last updated at 17:24 11 12?? 2007
A Dutch couple has sparked outrage by giving up a seven-year-old South Korean girl they adopted as a baby ? after claiming she didn't "fit in" with their life-style.
The diplomat and his wife, who had taken in the child after failing to conceive, handed her to social workers in Hong Kong after having two biological children.
They claimed the girl, who was adopted when four months old and has lived in the territory since she was three, was struggling to adapt to their culture, including food.
Now the Hong Kong's Korean community is trying to find a home for the unnamed child who is currently in foster care after being given up last year.
The girl, who speaks English and Cantonese but not Korean, is neither a Dutch citizen nor a Hong Kong resident, so her future in the territory is uncertain.
In South Korea, parents cannot return adopted children, but no such law exists in Hong Kong.
The diplomat told reporters, who agreed to his anonymity, that his family was struggling to cope with their decision and said his wife was having therapy.
"It's just a very terrible trauma that everyone's experiencing," he said.
"My foreign ministry knows about my situation.
"I have also been in touch with the Hong Kong Government and they have been very helpful to me and so has my own employer."
But the plight of the girl has sparked anger among social workers and many of the seven million people living in the territory.
"It's bizarre. I don't think it has anything to do with cultural shock," said Law Chi-kwong, an associate professor at the University of Hong Kong's Social Work department.
"The child grew up with them. They adopted her when she was a baby; they are responsible for shaping the child's mind and culture.
"How can you say the child cannot adapt to the culture in which she was raised? This is just ridiculous."
Members of Hong Kong's Korean community have flooded the country's consulate with offers of help.
Mark Choi, a spokesman for the Korean Residents Association in Hong Kong, said: "Several families have come forward to offer to adopt or foster the girl."
Hong Kong's Social Welfare Department said it was working with the adoptive parents and relevant parties on the future care of the girl.
It refused to disclose any other details.
Peter Mollema, spokesman for the Dutch foreign ministry in The Hague, said: "These are personal, private matters not shared with everybody at the ministry.
US skier to meet S Korean father
28-year-old Toby Dawson admitted he felt a mixture of emotions as he prepared to meet Kim Jae-su,
a bus driver from the port city of Busan.
Mr Kim said he lost his son while visiting a street market in 1981.
Mr Dawson's 2006 bronze medal, and the story of his adoption by a US couple, prompted dozens of
South Koreans to claim they were his real parents.
Kim Jae-su, 53, said he had made the connection after friends and relatives called him, saying the skier looked just like him.
Experts divided on transracial adoption
Tuesday, November 7, 2006
ADJUST: In dispute is whether the children will develop racial- or cultural-identity issues.
A federal survey estimated that in 1987 only 8 percent of adoptions were transracial.
The 2000 Census found that 13 percent of adopted children were foreign-born.
Simon conducted a 20-year study, from 1971 to 1991, of more than 300 children adopted by parents of a different race.
The report pointed that discrimination on gender and age still remains in Korea,
citing that Korean women are paid only 63 percent of what men are,
and senior citizens aged over 50 have only 33.7 percent of the opportunities that young people are given.
New Immigration Strategy: Koreans Send Children to America for Adoption
A growing number of South Korean parents are paying retired couples in the United States to adopt their children.
These Korean parents say teaching their children English is a priority, as well as other factors
including avoiding compulsory military service for young men and gaining the prestige of an American education.
One out of three Korean parents are willing to send their children abroad for the sake of a better education,
according to a study by the Center for Korean Education Development in Seoul in the Korea Times.
In the past, parents would ask relatives living in the United States to adopt their children, but more parents are now seeking out Caucasian families.
The Korea Times in Los Angeles reported the story of a Korean woman in Los Angeles on a work visa and employed as a nurse.
She wished to bring her two teenage children to the United States from Korea and paid a retired American couple to adopt them.
Putting a child up for adoption in the United States allows Korean parents to skirt around normal immigration procedures,
a drawn-out process with no guarantee of approval. Parents generally seek retired American couples,
whose own children often have left and have room to spare. The American couples receive an agreed-upon sum of money in exchange for adopting the child and
providing food and housing. Couples receive upwards of $30,000, with additional payments as necessary to cover room and board for each child they adopt.
In return, the child gains legal status in the United States, as well as the privilege of attending American schools.
Koreas Dark Secret
The article points out these figures
U.S.A population 250,000,000 annual abortions 2,500,000
S.Korea population 48,000,000 annual abortions 2,300,000
South Korea Number 4 in the World Cup and number 1 in baby slaughter!!
And a Korean agency has the stastical proof to back all this up!!
Or to put it another way - There are 13,000,000 South Korean women that
are able to have children and they dispose of 2,300,000 every year... gee
that's umm... 1 in 6 South Korean women that are able to bare children will
visit a quicky abortion mart to get a quick cut every year.
Oh and one last statistic- of those 2,300,000 South Korean abortions 15%
were sliced up because they were identified as female in an ultrasound!!
All of this information is freely available from the Korean Planned Family
Child dies as parents play MMOG in Korea
Yet more troubles in an MMOG-obsessed nation today as it is revealed a South Korean couple allow their baby to die, after the child was left alone for five hours while the parents went to a PC Baang (internet cafe to play World of Warcraft.
Adopted children discover their Korean roots
Sunday, July 17, 2005
By Rachel La Corte
The Associated Press
Since the end of the Korean War in the 1950s, South Korea has sent more than 155,000 children abroad for adoption.
Some two-thirds of those have gone to the United States, where children of South Korean origin make up
the largest group of foreign adoptees at 56,825, according to the latest U.S. census, conducted in 2000.
Korean society typically shuns adoption. The country's Confucian values place high value on blood relations.
Some parents who adopt children in Korea even move to different cities to conceal their children's status.
NEENAH ― When Kathi Rose went to Chicago’s O’Hare International Airport in 1986, she was having second thoughts.
She wondered what she could possibly do for the Korean orphan, an infant girl suffering from malnutrition and neglect,
who would soon be arriving to become part of her life.
Korea in Trouble with Gender Imbalance
Seoul "One son is worth ten daughters,' exclaimed the exultant south Korean mother of a newborn boy. ,
it's a harsh assessment, but one often heard. in male-dominated Asian societies. In South, Korea,
however, the preference for boys has taken adisturbing turn.
South Korea, in Turnabout, Now Calls for More Babies
By NORIMITSU ONISHI
August 21, 2005
After Park Pil Soo's second child was born nine years ago, he followed national family planning entreaties to limit families to two children by undergoing a free, government-sponsored vasectomy.
Then, in April, Mr. Park took advantage of a new policy, and had the vasectomy reversed, also at the state's expense. He and his wife, Yang Eun Hwa, 36, are now trying to have a third child.
After decades of promoting smaller families, South Korea - like several other Asian countries facing plummeting birthrates - is desperately seeking ways to get people to have more babies.
In South Korea, the decline has been so precipitous that it caught the government off guard. Policies devised to discourage more than two children, like vasectomies and tubal ligations, were covered under the national health plan until last year. This year, the plan began covering reverse procedures for those two operations, as well as care for a couple's third or fourth child.
Photos of `Toy Babies' Provoke Uproar
Photos of newborn babies being treated like toys by three nurses have been distributed over the Internet,
provoking rage among the general public, especially mothers and pregnant women.
Police have obtained the photos and launched an investigation to confirm the authenticity of the photos.
A preliminary investigation has revealed the identity of one of the nurses and police plan to question her, they said.
One of the photos shows a woman's hand pushing the faces of two babies together as if kissing. Another shows two hands squeezing a newborn's head and chin to make a frown.
One shocking picture shows a baby in a transparent plastic carry bag. Other photos showed a baby with wooden chopsticks in its mouth and a newborn crying with adhesive bandages on its face.
``The nurses played with babies like toys and then took photos of their ghastly actions. They posted the photos on their blogs and then deleted them,''
said one woman, a member of an Internet community on pregnancy and childbirth, where the photos were posted. ``Mothers of newborns across the nation have been enraged