|The story below is originally published on Mainichi Daily News by Mainichi Shinbun (http://mdn.mainichi.jp).|
|They admitted inventing its kinky features, or rather deliberately mistranslating them from the original gossip magazine.|
|In fact, this is far from the general Japanese' behavior or sense of worth.|
More men convinced marriage leads to life of misery 2006,02,14
Spa! 2/14 By Ryann Connell
Marriage means misery, according to Spa! (2/14), which claims it has the stats to back up its contentious claim.
Japan has in recent years been plagued by the joint problems of people waiting longer than they had to marry, having fewer people tie the knot and a greater number of couples who do pair up splitting again some time down the track.
According to the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare, Japan's marriage rate has dropped 9.9 percent over the past 10 years, while the divorce rate has skyrocketed by 26.5 percent over the same time.
Spa! says this nixing of nuptials is simple -- people have finally cottoned on to the fact that getting married eventually leads to disappointment.
A poll of 100 married men from 25 to 35 showed that 58 percent regretted ever marrying, with 35 percent of these guys -- with an average marriage of 4 years and 11 months -- saying they have rued their wedding day at least 10 times since it happened.
Divorce counselor Atsuko Okano is not surprised.
"There are so many people out their who mistakenly think they can get married and be guaranteed happiness," she tells Spa! "When dating, people only see what they want to see with their partner.
This ultimately leads to marriage breakdowns."
Okano says that if any partner was as good as their potential spouse viewed them, they'd have probably already been snapped up by somebody else.
they'd have probably already been snapped up by somebody else.
"Without knowing and accepting somebody's good and bad points, you're setting yourself up for misery by marrying them. It's pretty hard to expect somebody in the fewer years that they're considered to be of marriageable age to find a partner they can know all about. Most people of so-called marriageable age have a far too over-inflated opinion of their ability to judge others' characters."
Placing too much trust in a partner -- and expecting too much from them -- can lead to some awkward situations after tying the knot.
"There are still way too many people who think that just by marrying they'll become happy. Just because people become a couple there's no way that they're going to automatically understand each other and comprehend everything about their spouse. It's ridiculous to even think that could possibly be the case," the divorce counselor tells Spa! "Most people haven't even got a clue about their own personalities, let alone somebody else. No matter how much you think you love someone, don't ever give them a value greater than they're worth." (By Ryann Connell)
（Mainichi Japan） February 14, 2006